Originally published in hardback as If You Don’t Know Me By Now, this memoir explores Sanghera's relationship with his family growing up in Wolverhampton as well as in the present day.

Living in London and employed as a journalist for a major newspaper, his lifestyle is very different to that of his Jat Sikh parents, who do not speak any English and cannot read. In addition, his mother is constantly pressuring him to marry the right kind of girl, that is one within his own religion and caste. As a result he is forced to conceal his actual relationships with non-Sikh girls in London while going through the motions when his mother arranges for him to meet suitable young women. This double life leaves him quite stressed.